With baby #2, I have adopted an “expect the worst” attitude. I figure this way I am prepared for difficult times, and if things are easier than expected, I am pleasantly surprised.
1) expectation- sick first trimester, emotional pregnancy, lots of swelling.
That’s what I experienced with Macy, so I expected to feel the same this time. But, I had almost no nasusea, no headaches, and have (knock on wood) not gotten swollen yet. I was also an emotional basket case while I was pregnant with Macy, but this time I feel mostly like myself with just a few emotional outbursts to date. I think my husband appreciates this.
outcome= pleasantly surprised
2) expectation-60 hour labor
When I was pregnant with Macy, I thought that my labor would last for 24 hours max. Who has ever heard of a longer labor, right? Well, wow was I surprised when contractions started on Saturday at noon and I didn’t give birth until Monday night… Needless to say, it was a long three days. While I hope to God this doesn’t happen to me again, I will plan on it and then when I do give birth in a normal time period (fingers crossed) I will feel like a million bucks.
3) expectation-baby will sleep through the night at 18 months
My mom told me that all of her kids slept through the night by 9 weeks old. I thought ‘I can deal with that.’ Then my neighbor told me her kids didn’t sleep through the night until 6 months old. I was thinking ‘Oh my gosh, I can’t do that. I need my sleep. How ridiculous.’ Fast forward one year and my child still did not sleep through the night. I read the sleep book and tried everything they suggested, but Macy was still hungry during the night. My pediatrician even told me not to let her cry it out (when I was hoping she would be the one to make me feel okay about doing it).
When you have a baby, you don’t really know what to expect. Even if you plan ahead, there will still be unforseen issues that arise. Since this is a different child, I am sure we will have some different challenges, but I am hoping that with some experience under our belts we will have an easier time this around.